How do I respond to this

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  1. mugwortismy cat

    mugwortismy cat Tenacious to the End!

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    Message received on Ancestry:
    "hello, am looking for connections for x / y"

    I don't know off the top of my head of any such connection, and I don't want to trawl through all the x and y in my tree trying to hunt it out
     
  2. Sis

    Sis Rootles out resources!

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    Just tell them that. :)
     
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    Half Hour Well-Known Member

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    Just say at the moment you really don't have much information on that person as they aren't immediate family. ( I'm assuming here!) " Sorry, I can't really help"
     
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    kernowmaid Well-Known Member

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    How rude!
    People seem to be losing the skill of communication - too much abbreviated text messaging. (emoji needed for Grumpy Old Woman!)
    But it's equally rude to not reply ...

    Suggest you either ask them for more detail or, as Sue says, tell them you can't help.

    Jane
     
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    AnnB Editor in Chief who is Hot off the Press!

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    I agree with all of the above - put the ball back into their court, or tell them you can't help :)
     
  6. Philippa

    Philippa Always a lady.

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    "Do we have a common link here?"

    Or

    "What is your connection to them?"

    Could produce some interesting or valuable information? (Glass half full and all that stuff :) )

    Otherwise, of course, "Can't help without more detail"

    (Or "Pffffft - sorry")

    Good luck whichever way you decide to go, Mugs.
     
  7. mugwortismy cat

    mugwortismy cat Tenacious to the End!

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    They haven't even given me a name of a connection, just two random surnames ...

    So, I said:
    "Sorry, I do have xs and ys in my tree, but not aware of a connection. Was there a particular person you are interested in?"
     
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    Dogsday Well-Known Member

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    Excellent answer Mugsy :D:D
     
  9. mugwortismy cat

    mugwortismy cat Tenacious to the End!

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    Well, now I know who he is looking for, and I do have two persons with that name (though different spelling of the surname), but not a match to his :rolleyes:
     

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