Discussion in 'General Chatter' started by Sis, Apr 11, 2017.
No! Not really.
Honesty--- Love it.
Is it only here in Australia- Autumn- the huggie season gets so full on?
I'm psyching myself up to visit my daughter's ma in law, who was admitted to our local hospice a couple of days ago for palliative care. What on earth will I find to say to her.
Oh dear BD, it's so hard at times like that. Go with your heart
The best policy..... but I do feel awful sick now. Maybe I should have shared.
I think Sis is right, go with your heart. I've made such visits over the years, and gone with a heavy heart and trepidation - but nearly every time I needn't have been so worried, especially if you treat the person the same way as you would have done under much better circumstances.
Wise words Ann.
Bonzo - Ann put it just perfectly.
This morning I was convinced she wouldn't be and got myself in something of a tizz, so when the vet called to say that he was quietly optimistic she had turned a corner at last, I couldn't believe it. Only a grumpy old fleabag, I know, but she is my grumpy old fleabag.
Be yourself, Bonzo. Talk about your day, her day. She will want you to be yourself.
I know exactly how you feel BH. We have a very special almost 19 year old cat, but who fortunately has a really good appetite still and healthy, if somewhat slow. Fingers crossed for them both.
My pre-retirement employment in a cancer clinic meant I fully knew what to expect from outward appearances so there were no nasty shocks there. I was a regular visitor to the hospice in my NHS days and saw some heart rending sights, but things are a touch different when you don't actually know the patients concerned.
Pat had experienced severe abreaction to her original medication and can't tolerate morphine. She is currently being "weaned off" so an alternative drug, that hopefully will prove less devastating, can be tried in a few days time.
I only stayed for half an hour as she was so very tired, but at least she liked the flowers I took and was pleased to see me. She was also keen to show me the pump infuser she is hooked into and I was able to make an appreciated joke that she should complain as it isn't wifi enabled and can't receive Radio Luxembourg
More visits are planned as my wife's nursing home is quite literally at the other end of the, rather long, country lane.
I had a feeling that letting her set the tone would make it more pleasant than expected. Take care, Bonzo.
Huncamunca has been known to change her nom de plume, but having said that, I don't think she has been active on this site for many months.
Big hugs to you all that are facing health struggles
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